Still, navigating the world of online dating can definitely be tricky—what kind of message is clever, but not creepy?What the hell are you supposed to say about yourself in your profile? [pagebreak] OUT-OF-TOWN AND OUT OF TOUCH The scenario: “A guy sent me a message saying that he wanted to meet up for a drink, but when I asked when he was free, he said he was ‘going out of town’ for the next two weeks and that we should schedule something after.” — Andrea, 31 The problem..the solution: If you tell a girl you’re “going out of town,” she’s going to assume you’re busy dating other women.And since nobody seems to be forthright with their romantic feelings these days, you're going to have to instead look for signs he's interested. So to make it easier on you, I've provided some of the most utilized methods we use to show that we like you. Did we text you on Thursday night if you're still on for it? As you'll see, we, like you, tend to favor the "play hard to get" strategy through very veiled methods that can be difficult to decipher.A good rule of thumb: if you aren’t available for a date within 7 days of sending the message, don’t send it.NOT-SO-SMOOTH OPERATOR The scenario: “I recently received a message that said, ‘Damn you’re a pretty white girl, you into muscular black men?’” — Kristen, 27 The problem..the solution: Aside from the obvious inappropriate nature of the comment to a complete stranger, men should never mention their physical characteristics or their own body parts in an introductory message.Women are easily scared away online, so you should avoid saying anything remotely controversial or predatory.
As you’d expect, a model would do very well on Tinder… There hasn’t been a SINGLE time where I have swiped yes and there was no match.” said German Lifter. As a man myself, I'm here to let you in on the telltale actions men tend to do when we like a gal.If a guy likes you, he's going to make sure that any opportunity he has to see you, he will.” and “You’re gorgeous, I’d love to chat.” If you want to get her attention, try doing something a bit more personal.One girl we spoke to told a story about a guy who sent her a hilarious quote from the movie she had mentioned in her profile.
And the change in tone as a result is interesting: As user Everglide123 pointed out: Another topic of discussion was around double standards:“What is being exposed here is how the standards on what is and isn’t ‘creepy’, or ‘entitled’, etc.