Once you’ve decided to get a clearer idea of where your relationship stands, I recommend trying to start conversations as naturally as possible over a 2 to 4 week period.
Try not to force them but at the same time you will want to look for opportunities let him know that you need to know where you stand with him.
Men are slower to commit and many also need their ego “stroked”.
Perhaps not nice or courteous but not unfair either.
It’s especially bothersome if his actions suggest exclusivity even if he hasn’t declared so in words…and yet it is still acceptable in my mind for him to keep his profile up, even in this case.
I get that idea and if he were actively looking to meet new people I could even agree…but if he’s only logging in to respond to new emails why not ?
His response actually makes me wonder if he even realizes that he could hide his profile.
Silly logic aside, I would ask any reader who has this issue the same thing I asked the woman who contacted me: are the two of you EXCLUSIVE and have you both made it clear that you are only interested in dating each other?