"This is when dating services come in handy, to find the others that are available and ready to date." Laura Ryan, a licensed marriage and family therapist, certified hypnotherapist, and certified Imago Relationship Therapist agreed.
"Many eligible men have now gotten married or are in long term relationships because nesting and settling down is something that starts to happen in your late 20s and people begin to marry and have children in their 30s," she said.
"Now, in your 30s, priorities are changing, biological realities are setting in and your focus is to find someone with whom you can build a life and have children." It isn't just that the dating pool is smaller after 30, it's also that your brain has literally changed since you were 21 and sidling up to the hottie at the bar.
"Brain development is the primary reason dating after 30 is so different," said David Ezell, the clinical director at Darien Wellness.
"The 20-something scene typically means going to a loud bar to meet singles.
The 30 somethings tend to do activities they enjoy that offer exposure to other singles like, running groups, art classes or volunteering," said Jaime Bernstein, a senior matchmaker for the professional matchmaking startup Three Day Rule.
"Up until this time, your priorities have been career and experiencing life, and you weren't interested in settling down.
"Another major transition in the 30s is being more set on one's values and preferences.
"It seems that around age 30, men start looking for younger women to date, which narrows the dating pool significantly.
Younger women are perceived as more 'fun' with fewer expectations and a more youthful appearance and body." Ryan said that many men even limit their online dating searches to only women up to age 35, regardless of how old they are themselves.
"This re-defining time spills over into their dating life where women in their 30s are often much more direct on the values they want in a person and what types of behaviors they will and will not tolerate." One of the downsides of being more set in your ways and knowing exactly what you want is that you may not seem quite as fun to some potential mates as women in their 20s appear.
"When women are over 30 they also have to accept the reality that many of the men who are their age have now started dating women who are younger than they are," said Ryan.
Most people go through a re-evaluation of life around early 30s on what they really care about and what they want they want out of life," said Dr.