Dear Alice, I recently began dating a guy who is HIV positive.I know how it is transmitted and the risks involved, but I was wondering if there are any statistics out about being infected in my similar situation.Besides, labeling someone as damaged goods or unworthy sucks, and if you’ve been on the receiving end of this practice you know how demoralizing it can be.“UB2″ also sets you up for a false sense of security, because as one British study suggests, the risk of sex with someone who thinks they are HIV negative is higher than sex with an undetectable positive person.This is because the viral activity in a newly positive person can be incredibly high, and he may not even know it.It happens, sure, but that doesn’t make good ‘ol fashioned sex any safer. Living with HIV is not a toxic horror show of medications Yes, HIV usually requires medications and doctor visits. With so many options for HIV drug therapies, side effects have been reduced drastically and ones in development will reduce them even further.Poz guys are not weeping every morning as they chug down pills with their morning coffee.3.
If you need more help or want to talk about risks and options further, reach out to your health care provider or your partner's HIV specialist.Your own health is always in your hands through the choices you make — and they have nothing to do with the status of your partner, whether known or unknown. or no sex life All of these are usually false, if you’re using the typical sex life of a single gay man as a barometer. Sometimes our dance card is filled, sometimes there’s a drought, and sometimes the sex we have sucks, and not in a good way.The blame game has never benefitted anyone, and the playing field has always been level, whether we acknowledge it or not.6. And just like the rest of us, positive guys are getting their share and having satisfying, balls-to-the-wall sex when they’re lucky. And isn’t a slut just someone who has more sex that you do? How they got it and who gave it to them is none of your business The details of someone else’s infection isn’t your personal soap opera or cautionary tale, no matter your good intentions.HIV infection does not automatically turn guys into dangerous liars One of the most unfortunate misconceptions about positive guys is that they outright lie about their status just to get laid, or worse, are on a mission to infect others.Can we dial down the rhetoric about intentional transmission, please?
That’s why there’s such intense focus on getting tested and doing it regularly.