We all want someone to set the tone and follow along, instead of realizing that we’re always setting the tone ourselves.
I realize that I’ve gone on a bit of a tangent from your original question, Dwayne, but this is important.
If your email dialogue is flagging, it’s not simply because she’s not interested in you – it’s because you haven’t captured her imagination.
This probably sounds incredibly nitpicky, but it’s not. I’ve got two techniques for writing first emails that I describe in Finding the One Online.
And yet most of us get online and wonder why it always feels so stale.
It’s because YOU’RE making it stale, and you’re accepting stale conversation from others.
She played along and pushed right back and they’ve already got a first date lined up. “He was so lively and engaging that I sort of had no choice but to come back with something equally witty and creative.” “So by him writing something playful and interesting to you, he actually brought out a more playful and interesting side of you? Wouldn’t it stand to reason that if you took the time to write something interesting and creative back to these guys, you might discover that they actually have a personality?
I asked this client what made this email exchange different from the other exchanges. I mean, from the majority of your emails, you sound really boring, too.