But online dating has drastically increased your available pool of possibilities to include eligible ladies and gents you might not ever have seen or considered — and that’s a good thing.
Oyer, himself a man who met his current girlfriend on a dating site, extols their virtues, saying that for a certain population — in his case, a 50-year-old man; in the letter writer’s case, a 34-year-old woman — online dating has made the market thinner.
It's basically using online dating as a way to help you better internalize basic economics. Wouldn't recommend if you want a deep dive or to learn something new about markets, but Oyer's humor and humility towards his personal online dating journey is really great!
As I am an over-educated person with a graduate degree, I knew most of this already, but Oyer's presentation is breezy, amusing, and clear, and his analogies are funny.
Strayed and Almond mentioned that they’ve recently gotten a steady stream of similar letters from unhappy single women who argue that “all the emotionally available men are spokenfor.” Listening to the show, it sounded at first like your typical advice-column stuff, and like some of those fears must be overblown.Oyer also provides examples with e Bay, financial Web sites, and mostly anything internet related to make his point. While I did notice a few editorial mistakes in the book, this did not detract from the enjoyment of reading it.Now I know that my issue with online dating is that I think it does not maximize my utility, and that being single has placed my in a socioeconomic bubble due to positive assortative mating. It seems like everyone is a little disappointed with this book: if they wanted dating advice, it had too much economics; if they wanted economics, it had too much goofy discussion of online dating.Monster.com, e Bay, and other sites where individuals come together to find a match gave Oyer startling insight into the modern dating scene.The arcane language of economics—search, signaling, adverse selection, cheap talk, statistical discrimination, thick markets, and network externalities—provides a useful guide to finding a mate.
So if you're looking for an extensive breakdown of using formulas or something crazy to make your dating more efficient, this isn't that book at all.